The Inevitable Collapse of Agile - David Stackleather

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David Stackleather  3:37  
I'm good. Rick, how are you doing?

Rick A. Morris  3:38  
Doing fantastic. And you know, when I asked for a topic for the show, you know, the inevitable collapse of agile and so boy already I can feel the Agile is just, you know, just breathing heavy. Like, don't don't mess with my method. Don't you touch my standup right. Don't mess with my sprint. But let's talk about that. Right agile is is such a big buzzword and It's It's, you know something I looking at you on the screen here. I'm not going to guess age or judge age. But we've been through the ITIL. We've been through the Six Sigma craze. We've been through all the latest fads and things and, and so when when I first heard of agile, I thought it was a fad. I was like, man, they may even be around in two years, but right, it's hanging on. So talk to me. But why did you come up with that as a title? Why do you see it as an inevitable collapse of Agile?

David Stackleather  4:25  
Well, I, my early career, my first professional job was in when TQM was coming into the

Rick A. Morris  4:34  
TQM I'm certified baby.

David Stackleather  4:36  
Yeah, and process reengineering. And Mike hammer. And there was an executive at the company I worked for who was big into process reengineering. And I was kind of picked from the bowels of the organization as maybe I had an interest in that skill there. And so those things I was really passionate about that did a lot of work within the company I worked for with our clients, kind of an internal consulting company learned a lot traveled the world. And I still believe in all that stuff. I still believe in TPM. And I still believe in process reengineering in the in the right context. But it became clearer and clearer to me that there's a more fundamental issue that even if you have the recipe, even if you have the quote unquote, solution, there's a bigger issue and trying to accomplish that in larger organizations. And my most recent experience in a large scale agile transformation, were a very old school organization in the insurance space, which is famous for not wanting to change for some good reasons and some bad and looking at even an organization that wanted to go through the transformation and needed to go through a transformation. How much kind of nonsense there was within that structure and nonsense internally generated but a lot of nonsense externally generated from consulting firms. A lot of people who really had no idea really what they were talking about, but they had a certification over weekend and suddenly they felt they could suggest how an organization that is a multi billion dollar, billion dollar organization is going to operate and appreciating the complexities of that, you know, because it's not a machine that we're dealing with. And I've dealt in manufacturing environments, and those are also extremely complicated. But when you get humans involved in the situation, it's really complicated and the context is key. And so the more that I look at specifically agile, which I'm a big believer in the foundational principles of agile, I think this is the right direction, but the industry around it and what's being sold is is doesn't kind of hue to those standards. I don't believe and just like frankly, if we're speaking, you know, honestly, the T QM days, the process reengineering days, the Six Sigma days, whatever fad, you can mention the outcomes, I think we're generally disappointing to the various Businesses that implemented them not that there weren't successes. And I think we're seeing that now in the Agile space as well.

Rick A. Morris  7:06  
Well, so let's back that up and deconstruct it a little bit first, whether it's t qm ITIL, agile, Six Sigma, it's all plan, do check act. I mean, Pim Bach is doing that, is doing that. I mean, it's, it's all we're gonna plan, we're going to do it, then we've got a measure, and then we're going to act upon those measurements and deviations right there. Right? Plan, do check act. So that's why I always considered a fad. But I think my biggest determining factor of whether or not I really believe in what's going on, is whether is the first step that suggested and if the first step is suggested is we got to train everybody in the organization in new in new words and a new lingo. Right, then you're selling training, you're not selling a product because honestly, if you do it well, you don't really have to put anybody through training. It's just you just change the underlying structure and say, This is the way it's going to be done here.

David Stackleather  7:53  
Is that fair to say? No, I think the way that I I look at these I question, especially with the Large scale frameworks and I use safe as an example not because I have any particular issue with safe, but that's the most popular one. And I asked myself, what's being sold there? What's the business model and the business model is a certification business model. And it's a consulting, business model implementation business model, but really from the the large scale frameworks being sold. It's really the revenue stream is certification, which is why you pick just about any of the frameworks, or any of the organizations providing certification. And when I first got involved in the Agile space, there were a couple you know, you had your product owner and your Scrum Master certification, you know, there was a handful. Now, there's a dozen or more for most of these. Yeah, I mean, it's just it which is is kind of crazy in a lot of ways. And so just like any other business, they're coming out with new models all the time because they want to create new features and new models they can sell and that's really exciting. It's not fundamentally about improving an organization, it's about selling the training and all the kind of add on processes. And I think you're right in the executive or a leader will see that as you know, I call it installing the agile, you know, I want to buy the agile and install the Agile as if they're buying a printer or something. Right. And because of the way it's structured and sold, it kind of looks like that. And it seems very scientific, and it seems very official, and it's very expensive, and very time consuming. And by the time you get through all this certification and relabeling and all this process, a couple of things happen either it fizzles out, and people just still use the same terms but they're not really acting in that way. or an organization will try to fool itself because once you've spent millions of dollars implementing something, you can't really admit that it didn't. It didn't work. And so now you're you're, you're kind of forced to set to say that it did work or move on and Forget about it because you don't want to admit that you spent a huge amount of money doing something that didn't work.

Rick A. Morris  10:04  
Now Dean leffingwell is is a friend of the show and he's endorsed books that we've done. We wrote a book called agile Almanac, which was scaling all the different types of agile methodologies to the to the bigger scale. he endorsed that book, wonderful person, but the certifications coming out too fast. I mean, I was certified I think in four Dotto, and it's already up to five. And that was just a few years right and your certifications no longer valid because I decided I wanted to change the model. And the reason why I changed the model is because I'm getting feedback that it doesn't work right. So it's it's, it's this constant thing, but to be fair, one of the things that you said was was Tiki and and all these things were six sigma t qm, although they seem not to work in what I think happens is I think they do work I think, I think in their purest form when when, you know, the Toyota way, right, that was the big thing. Everybody wouldn't read that book and try to implement it like Toyota did. But it did work for Toyota. It was it was amazing what they did, but I love the way that you said the install methodology. So just go get me that no, that was a whole culture built and we've got a top down and everybody was no knowing what was happening. And so I want to get some of your feedback we're about to go to break here and I want to start talking about what you call the Agile industrial complex but to leave the listeners with something here as well as one of the biggest things that I see in failures of Agile is that we don't change the methodology the executives and I see this I have a lot of coaches on the line as well that a lot of john Maxwell team coaches and when when you approach an executive they go Okay, yeah, my team needs coaching. They're like no, no, we're starting with you. Oh, no, I'm fine. I'm good. I'd you know that my team needs that I'm you don't have to talk to me. And so I'm watching you know, a team base agile get started, but still being requested waterfall reports. So when is it going to be done? how much it's going to cost, which means the organization hasn't bought in, right? And so now you've spent all this money on training, you've got this agile team running and now when you're trying to then quantify it back up to the executives They don't, they don't that coach has never done it in a large scale like that insurance company there's the person that got sort of certification hasn't led anything on a large scale where the less transform a business right So, lots to talk about lots to unpack we'll get into the Agile industrial complex you're listening to David stack leather and Rick Moore's and the work life balance.

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Rick A. Morris  14:12  
And we're back to the work life balance on this Friday afternoon visiting with David stack leather. David is talking about the inevitable collapse of agile. So that obviously piqued my interest. And I'm excited to have you aboard the show. One of the things that you brought up in in some of the pre interviews is you talked about the Agile industrial complex, can you can you describe what that is and what you're talking about there.

David Stackleather  14:33  
So this is the most visible aspect of this are the certification organizations, you know, the scrum.org and the scrum Alliance, and then some of the framework vendors safe and less than those kind of things. And that's even in the past couple of years that's kind of exploded. Even from a framework perspective. We have Nexus and others that have popped up and you know, I think as we talked about Before the break, a lot of this stuff is based on the same set of principles. It's just kind of a re mixing of it doesn't really bring anything new. And so this creates this process where there's an industry that's selling something to people. And there are multiple customers in the industry, which is kind of the complexity of it. The certification is one component of it. And those customers are employees, and folks who want to get into a job or a career. And the certification is just like in you know, the project management space, you had PMP certification, this is like that, but just worse than that, there's so many more. And the employees and the workers feel they have to become certified so you have a ready made audience. Hiring managers are part of this as a customer of this complex because hiring managers are looking to hire a fairly complicated skill set and a lot of these roles are Scrum masters and amazingly complicated skill set to hire for. And so as a hiring manager, it's much easier for me to simply Do you have a CSM and then I'll hire a CSM. And then, you know, just like in the old days where nobody got fired for buying IBM, you could say, well, nobody gets fired because you hired a CSM, they were certified, but nobody knows really what that means being certified. And you have executives who are for various reasons, some of them real, the performance of their organization isn't where it should be. And they're looking to change or they just want to be in on the latest fad to tell their friends that, hey, I'm an agile organization now. And so they want something to buy and install. And a lot of these large frameworks that come along with the certifications is something they can buy and feel that they can install. And what's what's fascinating, you said something before the break about, you know, it does work in certain contexts and stuff. And you mentioned Toyota and I totally agree. Now, the interesting thing is there's only one Toyota in the universe, right? And so the you know, the context is key there and in Toyota the, you know, executives were really bought in and continue to be really bought into the concepts and the philosophy behind it and the culture and that organization has built up over time. But you can't simply say to a, you know, a financial services firm be like Toyota, that just doesn't really work. And so a lot of this, this industrial complex is really about selling pieces of this to different customers. But it's not about fundamental transformation, because you can't, you can't just buy that in a box and install it.

Rick A. Morris  17:29  
Now, they, but they're sold it, that they're sold, what they they're sold a bill of goods, you write this, you will get this

David Stackleather  17:36  
there sold this as a bot and the more you know, kind of the more complicated it looks, the more pieces the more titles, all that stuff, the more it kind of makes sense to the existing narrative, which is really a false narrative, but they you know, they think there's just some tweak and it from an executive standpoint, they're really saying I want somebody else to change, I'm not going to change so give me something that I can install that will have these other people change. I think there's also something that's happened recently, a couple things that's happened recently. And by recently, maybe in the last decade. One is that you have a lot of executives and organizations that have found themselves in a position where they have to understand technology. Because their business, everybody relies on technology. You know, when I was in the financial services space, you would have executives talk about, I don't really care what happens in the technology department. And you know, I tried to tell them, if the technology stops working, this organization dies in 24 hours, right. And so there's no distinction between the business and the technology nowadays, but you have a lot of executives who this is new for them, and a lot of them don't really want to be involved in to the degree that they need to be. And so this this kind of scratches an itch to say I can, instead of understanding really what's going on there and be a part of that solution in the context of my organization and change myself and change how my my leadership team operates. I'll just buy this box of gizmos and have you guys install it. And it'll just it'll change the organization. But it fundamentally is an impossible ask. The other thing that's happened, you know, in the past maybe three or four years, I would guess is the very large consulting houses have come into this, they see this, the buzz generate, and large organizations, you know, on the kind of late adopters. And so that's an opportunity for them to just kind of, here's all the people, we're going to sell you thousands of hours of very expensive consulting folks to go in and transform your organization. And all they're doing is implementing the box of gizmos that you buy from the framework, implementing it without context within the organization. And they'll spend several years doing that. But fundamentally, your organization won't change because the culture didn't change the way the leadership operated, didn't change. And unfortunately, eventually all the employees will figure that out much quicker than the leadership And they'll become kind of upset that this is another fake change, which is probably one in a long series of fake changes within most organizations not all I mean, I want to be careful that there are there are definitely organizations out there that are trying to change and leaders that are trying to change but if you look at a percentage of organizations, I think that's a pretty small percentage.

Rick A. Morris  20:21  
And so so it's some it's important for us then to focus on the why of the change the one of the big things and misconceptions of Agile is if I install it will be faster. It's just it's it's, it's no different than saying I'm going to hire a personal trainers so that I can run faster, or that the day that you hire the trainer, you're running faster, right? That's Yeah, months of hard work and months of transformation in changing. And so I think the other thing is, is if if you're going to agile because you're having delivery problems and a lack of trust in the team and a lack of leadership, agile is only going to exacerbate that it's only going to make it worse because It requires more trust and more cohesive team units and stuff to be really effective. Right. But I recently had a client that that was sold the safe bill of goods essentially they wouldn't say but almost every single one of their projects is commercial off the shelf installations. Hmm. So now you're at the mercy of the vendor, and they're trying to be agile, and they're trying to do pies and it wasn't working for them. And I always said, so just don't do that ceremony. Right? Oh, well, you know, it's prescribed is what moves. But we have to recognize that these are just like the Pim Bock if you look at PMI in the pen back then that was a methodology but that doesn't mean I do every single one of those processes for every single project methodology. This isn't a doctor prescribing a treatment. If you don't do the treatment, you're gonna die. Right? This is this is somebody going you know, you may want to eat a couple less potatoes a rake, just gotta lay off the potatoes like a little bit there. Right? That's more of what it is. So So why, why is that difficult though for executive To just comprehend why we see it because we've been through it all. Yeah. Why? Why are these executives just buying it?

David Stackleather  22:08  
Well, I think part of it is that, especially in large organizations with a big hierarchy, most executives don't interact with the people who are at the interface to their customers. So I read somewhere, I wish I knew who had written it. But they said, there's a developer, a programmer has more in common with this with the CEO than any kind of mid manager does, right? Because they both just want to get something done at the end of the day. But most CEOs don't talk with the developers who are writing the software for their customers. And don't sit down and listen to what their problems are. And therefore, they have all this middle layer, this information that's being kind of squeezed the value before it gets into a PowerPoint and it gets into the boardroom. And the middle layers that are squeezing that information out are not doing it maliciously. They're been trained through the culture to do that. To what to expect, how to communicate. The one that I always kind of laugh at is I'm always admonished for providing too much detail to executives. You know, they don't want to go into that detail and say, Well, I understand they don't want to have a five hour long, you know, speech about something. But these are smart people. I mean, these are these are not dummies, why are we dumbing down everything? Why don't we have real conversations about real problems at the interface of the customers, which is the only relevant interface in an organization. And so I think that, because the executives and leaders have separated themselves, they don't go and sit down with developers and customer service people and the guy at the dock, unloading the boxes. All these folks know exactly where the problems are. And they'll tell you now, they may not tell you in the you know, most flowery language, they may not be polite about it, but they'll tell you what the issue is and you should be thankful if that's the case, but too many executive Don't do that. And I've seen in my career, a couple who are really good at that, and would know what was going on and could could interface with the organization at all levels in a way that made sense. But most are just kind of trapped in their daily meeting structure and PowerPoint decks, which there's no info. There's no valid information coming from that process.

Rick A. Morris  24:21  
yet. Carly Fiorina actually attributes a lot of her success, who first female CEO of a tech giant HP, to the fact that she would, she talked to everybody, she'd sit down with anybody and hear them out and got her best ideas from the lower level. There's the thing that I've done, I've dubbed it the fuzzy middle layer, you're talking about the middle layers, I call them fuzzy because that's where stuff just gets fuzzy. Right? But it's interesting, I was part of a project at at CAA, where we were developing an application on top of clarity ppm. So your total project portfolio management's got all of your statuses. And we built an app for an iPad, where you could do your strategy, but then you could tie your Strategy directly to the project. So you could see in a dashboard, how it was beautiful, but it bombed because it bypassed the middle layer, because it was getting the project managers were inputting data directly into the system. And that was feeding right up to the strategic plan, right. And there was no context being given by the fuzzy middle layer. And so it caused a lot of concern. Right. And so the project managers loved it. The executives loved it. The fuzzy middle layer, hated it. Really interesting to watch. Yeah, but why do we Why do we think executives stay so far removed? I've met with CIOs that literally just they're like, they like us. They like us, these consultants who will give them that level of data because we're the only people giving them real actionable data in the system. How do you How can they not see that culture getting for?

David Stackleather  25:52  
Well, they, you know, a part of it and happens over time. And so it's it's the old boiling frog problem. It's not a quick thing these cultures are generated over time. And it makes sense. It's logical that as, especially as an organization grows, you're like, Well, when I have, you know, 10 people in a room, and we're a little 10 person company, we don't have a lot of hierarchy. We're just in a room, we're talking, everything's flowing. If we have 1000 people in the organization, as the leader of the organization, I think, well, just mathematically, I can't deal with 2000 people. So it makes sense for me to create a hierarchy, rather than creating kind of a network process, which is a structure that you might want to look at, rather than a hierarchy. But the default is, well, I have a problem. So I need to hire a role. I need to have somebody to manage these people. And before long, you have all these structures. And there are a couple of things that happen, I think, to most executives, one is they get into a cadence, it's the you know, the old maker versus manager proc process where you know, managers can split their time in half hour increments, but if you actually build anything for a living, that's not possible you need to have long periods of time, financially. interrupted, you know, programmers don't develop software and half hour increments, right. And so they get into this cadence where it kind of makes sense you're having these meetings, you're think you're getting the information, it's very quick to fool yourself, that you have some line on what's really happening because that data is all being translated based on what the middle layer thinks you want to hear. And that middle layer is watching the executives reaction really, really closely. And so I think what a lot of executives don't realize is when they have a reaction, that's maybe a poor reaction, or they push back against something or they complain about something that that almost has a 10 x effect on the reaction of the middle layer, and it just makes the situation worse. And I've seen that time and time again, with like executive reaction in a meeting where somebody's presenting some data, which is valid and it's not good data. It's not good information. We'd rather not to be that way. And the executive reacts and I don't like this And the reaction is kind of a 10 x effect to the middle managers, and therefore the next meeting is even more watered down. For sure. And, you know, one of the things that has amazed me, especially in large, very large, like financial services organizations is the disconnect in, in opinion between the executives on what they think the worker level in the organization is, how good they are, versus how good they really are. And so they have an opinion that will our programmers aren't very good. That's why our software kind of goes down or whatever. And if you sit down and talk to the developers, you know, you're like, these are really smart people. These guys know what's going on. And you're lucky to have this kind of staff but the executives have never really talked to them and interacted with them and understand how many of their decisions which they don't even understand the impact of their decisions, kind of causes problems within the systems of the organization. They kind of they kind of lay the groundwork for their own torture in the future, but they just don't realize it. Because fundamentally, they're talking to people because they think that as an executive, my job is to sit in meetings and listen to PowerPoints and issue directives and that sort of thing rather than get lazy, right? You get lazy and you get used to that process. You know, we're all human. We get used to that this is kind of nice coming into the office, having my coffee, having somebody come and you know, give me a PowerPoint deck me making some kind of pontificating on it. The other thing that's dangerous let's let's pause right there because what I'd like to do is give some tips and tricks around kind of preventing this happen, but we do need to get to a break really quickly and we'll get it right on the other side of these commercials listening to Rick Morrison the work life balance.

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Rick A. Morris  31:31  
And we're back to the work life balance on this Friday afternoon. Afternoon. We're visiting with David stack leather and talking about agile and how you what we may see as the inevitable collapse of agile and right before break. We were talking about 10 executives being removed. And you made a really good point, Dave, in talking saying that. There's opinions that are that are different in the opinion of the developers, the executives are is really based on that fuzzy middle layer that we're talking about. I always like that as executives when I go When I say well, who's who do you think makes the strategic decisions of this company? And you know, of course, well, I do, you know, this is what I get paid for, and I go, so do you have a prioritized list of projects? And are you resourced against those? And they go, No, I go, well, then you're not making the strategic, you may make the strategic direction, you're not making the strategic decisions, because the person that is that DBA in the corner that just got asked for things to do. And because there's no clear direction on what I should do, first, they're making the strategic decisions of what they're doing. And I've got 884 different strategic decisions being made a day. So that's, that's, it's an interesting concept, but how do we what are some tips and tricks to kind of help that or how do you deal with those opinions?

David Stackleather  32:44  
So So one, and you know, agile really helps in this way, which if if executives and leaders would accept this is the idea that if you operate off a prioritized backlog of things that you're working and whatever the granularity of the backlog is, you know, But certainly at a higher level about what the outcomes are you need for your business. And the idea of forcing that prioritization. So you don't have 10 number ones, which is usually in large enterprise, everything is important, we need to have 10 number ones. And, you know, the way that I describe it to them is Look, when you when you come into work in the morning, you have to get dressed, and you have to get your your set appearance to show up at work. All that stuff's important, your pants are important, your shirts important, everything's important, but you have to have a priority to get it done. You can't do it all at the same time. And so that's fundamentally the same way that we have to operate in these these projects on these efforts. One is to to the one decision is what is the most important thing at this moment in time and if you can, as a leader make that decision, then you need to figure out what information who do I need to talk to, because I think a lot of organizations kind of outsource that work just like you're describing to the to the layers the programmers and the DBAs in the to mid level managers to make those decisions, and there's 1000 decisions happening. And probably with most organizations 60% of the work is not really relevant to the success of the organization. It's kind of busy work, it'll be thrown away, or it doesn't really matter at the end of the day, but leaders are not making those decisions, because they're not having a hard discussion about prioritization, which is hard. I mean, I admit it, you have to make decisions about what you won't do, and what you will do. And that list should be fairly small, and it can change over time. But too many love to pass that

Rick A. Morris  34:33  
it's there.

David Stackleather  34:34  
Right? But that's the you know, as you just described, that somebody is making a decision. And they're making that decision for you. And you've just outsourced that decision to somebody you don't know. And you don't know why they're making that decision. And most likely, the decisions are not going to be consistent for delivery of some value that the organization needs, which is why you have so many organizations spending what seems like more and more money. Especially on technology efforts, but they see what they get more or less and less value out of the other end. And there's lots of reasons for that. But one, I think, is because of this lack of really, if you're an executive, the one thing you need to do is prioritize what's important to the organization, what what really needs to happen? And what are the goals of the organization and have a feedback loop to understand if you've if you need to change your decision, and very, very few leaders have that process. But the Agile kind of guides the way if you if you just take the kind of baseline agile of a prioritized backlog that concept and approach can help quite a bit, but too many don't want to have those difficult discussions because it is difficult. But let's Yeah,

Rick A. Morris  35:42  
let's talk about that first and prioritize backlog and I'll give you an example working with an executive recently. It first of all, the term agile coach, I hate that it's so why because I am an agile coach. But I don't, I don't install teams and I don't do whatever do is I work with executives to teach them how to think in an agile format? So for instance, you build me a data warehouse. Okay, well, that's fine. But what are we going to do with it? Well, you know, I don't know, I just need all my data in one place. And I'll tell you, no, that's not what we're going to build. And so I was doing this with an organization. And it's like, so what are we trying to get at? Well, we feel like we need to do local market plans. Okay, great. So how's the local market plan work? Well, we get our 50 accounts, and we get information. So great, let's, let's take six people, we'll do 300 accounts, we'll clean them up. We'll do this all manually to see if we're going to get a benefit. Before we go by Big Data Warehouse. I just kept asking questions. So I was like, so why can't we just take the 50 accounts and finally got the executive to go, Well, how do I know those are the best 50 accounts? And I was like, there's your first agile question, right? How do we know? And what are we going to use? So what are we going to use to determine it comes back? I don't know. That's why I needed their data warehouse to give me all the data and I was like, even if you have all the data, you're not going to know so Let's start here. And that's what an agile coach should really do is really force you to the value conversation and asking really good questions to be answered versus, well, I want to build a data warehouse and we're agile, so I should get it in six months instead of a year.

David Stackleather  37:14  
Right? Yeah. And I think it's, it's interesting, because as you're describing that, you know, if you take, take it out of the Agile coach or an external party, like yourself having that conversation and put an employee in that chair, they wouldn't get past the third question, right? What you know, they would just kind of be like, Okay, I'm done talking about this, just do what I told you to do. I have another meeting to go to. And so, you know, I think too many. I give you an example, a personal example, I've had somebody who's worked for me three companies over my career. And this individual will tell me when he thinks I'm going loopy, in a nanosecond, a very straightforward and sometimes it can be a frustrating conversation. You know, it's like he keeps pushing, pushing, pushing I've always valued that you have to have have to have people in the organization or people that you trust to be able to push back on the process or ask the 20 questions until you get to something that makes sense. And too often, executives or even mid level managers don't want to allow that. They have a very short fuse for that. And I think because it's part of it is because of the internal PR machine in your head that a lot of managers have when they're not involved in the day to day, and occasionally they'll come up on a situation. And they'll say, they'll make a comment, oh, you should do it this way. Or have you thought about that? And they're right, and the employee says, Oh, we didn't think about that. Sorry. And what people don't realize is the manager or the executive in their head, the PR machine in their head is saying, oh, you're a genius. Look, you just figured something out. You're a genius. You're a genius. And it plays in their head continuously and then they they end up believing their own internal PR when it's not just because you don't not involved and you just showed up and you saw it from a different angle and you made it statement and it seemed like you're a genius, but it's just the context of where you're coming from. It's not that you have any greater knowledge than your employees. And so I think they train, you know, and we all do this get trained over time, if we're not actively pushing back against this process, where we're shutting down the conversation that is so critical. But But oddly enough, we'll let an external party do it. If you bring in an external consultant, you'll let them get away with all kinds of stuff. Not always. There's always Oh,

Rick A. Morris  39:29  
yeah, I've been I've been escorted out a building. Yeah.

David Stackleather  39:32  
I mean, you have to kind of judge the context. But you can get away with a lot more as an external party and ask more uncomfortable questions and just about any employee in the organization, and that shouldn't be that way. Right? I mean, from because there's a lot of good knowledge in organizations that they're missing.

Rick A. Morris  39:50  
So we've got a couple of minutes left about two to three minutes left in this segment, what should executives really be focused on if agile is not going to work? What What should work what should they be? focused on.

David Stackleather  40:00  
So I think they shouldn't be focused on, you know, implementing a framework or having everybody get certified. They need to not that these things are not useful. These components of what we call agile are very useful. But executives to understand what's the context of their organization? What's the culture of their organization? What is the the goal, the optimizing goal of the structure of the organization? What do they need? What problem do they need to solve in the next several years, five years, and look at maybe tactics or structures that they can implement and test and have a feedback process but not to buy something that they're going to install? A large framework, starting to change titles, get people certified, really until you as a leader say, what are we trying to accomplish? And how should we change our work and there's a lot in Agile that'll inform on that and it's very valuable, but you shouldn't be your first step should not be to call up a consulting firm and say I want to buy the agile and to install the agile, because that's all that's inevitably going to fail. And most organizations, that's what they're doing. But the hard work is to understand your organization, go talk to the developers, figure out really what you really want to accomplish as an organization, maybe you don't have a problem as an organization, frankly, you might be working just fine. And agile is not the right thing to implement. And so that's the real process is to have those discussions and questions at all levels, not just in the boardroom.

Rick A. Morris  41:33  
I think I think one of my biggest suggestions I gave when we start talking about agile as if we're going to deploy agile, you need to start deploying agile yourself as an executive even in the way that you're bringing in people. So what's the value that you're going to negotiate in versus, you know, and that's my frustration with some of the big firms and in Look, they some of the big firms do a lot of great work. They do, to be fair, but then, you know, we have our run ins as consultants. I you know, I was an expert of this software for 20 years I was there when it was built. And I'm working with the lady that actually wrote the financial calculation portion. We're trying to solve something for a client and it's not working the way we want. And this guy comes in, sits down with the software for two minutes, and it gets a meeting with the CIO. And now I'm having to sit with the CIO, because this guy thinks he solved the problem. It's taking a Nic. Again, this is not I wouldn't suggest this. But again, I was an external consultant was frustrated. Plus, I'm Italian. I said, Look, I read all about your business on Wikipedia last night, I know how to solve all your problems. And the guy goes, What are you talking about? I said, that's what this joker just did here. I mean, you've got the people who wrote the software in the building. Let us finish this out. Right. He has no idea what he's talking about. But unfortunately, that's what we deal with in the consultant game. Right?

Unknown Speaker  42:44  
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah.

Rick A. Morris  42:47  
So we're going to go ahead and take our final break right here. We're going to come back with David's deck later, we're going to find out how to get in touch with them, as well as what are some of the best advice he's ever received. Stay tuned right here. You're listening to Rick Morris and the work life balance.

VoiceAmerica  43:04  
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You are tuned in to the work life balance to reach Rick A. Morris or his guest today we'd love to have you call into the program at 1-866-472-5790. Again, that's 1-866-472-5790 if you'd rather send an email Rick can be reached at our Morris at r squared consulting.com Now back to the work life balance.

Rick A. Morris  44:50  
And we're back to the work life balance our final segment this Friday afternoon still visiting with David stack leather David what company did your own consultant you have your own firm Yeah, I have my own, you know, one man operation called scale frameworks kind of as a joke about the Agile frameworks. Well done. I like that.

Unknown Speaker  45:11  
I was I was available

Rick A. Morris  45:14  
right out of people get in touch with you, how do they find you?

David Stackleather  45:18  
So the easiest way to get in touch with me is either at David at scaled framework comm if you want to shoot me an email or I'm on LinkedIn, at LinkedIn slash stack leather linkedin.com slash stack leather. I'm only one of two David stack leather so you'll quickly find out which one it is the other ones my dad, he works for the federal government, that's not me.

Rick A. Morris  45:39  
Well, what would you say is your your ideal client?

David Stackleather  45:42  
My ideal client is someone, a leader in an organization who really wants to make change. Who sees that the situation is changing maybe in their industry, they're not delivering as they they used to. They're not satisfying their customers. They don't really know What the what the gears are how the thing needs to change, but are open to anything and open to dealing directly with people who do the work open to changing hope and open to being in very uncomfortable situations. And those are the best, like if we can just have a real conversation and maybe it gets a little heated but we're okay at the end of the day, we're moving forward and trying to do the best thing for the organization and and the folks that rely on that organization, both employees and customers. That's the best situation I really get energized by those kind of situations. I'm not really big on politics and hierarchy and let's talk about the org charts and that sort of thing. That's, that's not really something that I was interested in.

Rick A. Morris  46:46  
So what some of the best advice you've ever received.

David Stackleather  46:48  
So probably the you know, as similar to the kind of the internal PR machine I as I mentioned before the break I had an executive that I worked for for quite some time and he Told me during a dinner or something, always remember, you're not a genius, which is shocking to have somebody about seven rungs above you on the org chart. And we talked quite a bit about that. And what he had said was that there's so much information there's the world is so complicated in a lot of ways you can't possibly know everything, you have to rely on other people. You have to be open to new information. And no matter how smart you are, how smart you think you are, you have to know and believe that you're not a genius. And you're not always going to have the answer. And for two reasons, one is because you're not always going to have the answer. The second is even if you have the answer, other people have an ability to kind of mess that up for you. And so you have to make sure that everybody's on board and nobody likes to work or deal with somebody who thinks they're a genius. It's annoying. And so I think I'm very smart. I have an ego like anyone else, but I try to actively tamp that down. I think it's important especially the highest You are up in a hierarchy, the more kind of good luck you've had in your life about moving into a position, having the right education, having the right parents, whatever the situation is, is having a little humility and understanding that the world is very complex. And you don't have all the answers. But if you get enough people together and have a good conversation, you can probably find a good solution. And that's the best advice. And I've tried to increasingly improve on that over the years, this probably was 20 years ago when I heard this message. And that's, you know, led me down a good path. I think over time, where I can I can at least be proud of what I've done. And I'm not ashamed of anything that I've done in my my career.

Rick A. Morris  48:46  
Do you have any final thoughts or things that you'd like to share with the audience?

David Stackleather  48:50  
Well, I would just say that especially if you're involved in an agile transformation, if you've got your CSM, if you're in an organization that uses is kind of struggling is to kind of throw away the idea about the certifications and go back to the the actual underlying data. And what I mean by the underlying data or the underlying information is the the old stuff like Deming, the number of times that I'm in a room of executives and ask them if anybody know who Edwards Deming is. And I get maybe one hand at a 40 cola. You know, it makes me really sad. And this is what I mean about this. We know what to do in these organizations. We know how people work we know how leaders and people on the factory floor or the call center floor ideas that really operate but we need to go back to this information so kind of throw away the new website stuff and go back to the lemmings and McGregor it's not hard to find all these people. And and you'll be surprised when you read the kind of the old knowledge that we've known about this for quite some time. We have a lot of ideas, but I think focus needs to really go back and read that stuff and understand it the intent behind it, rather than kind of taking a, you know, pre written, pre installed framework or set of tactics, and try to shove them in the context of your organization, because it's just, it's just going to be frustrating. All the way around.

Rick A. Morris  50:18  
Yeah, and, again, there's gonna be something else that comes behind agile, it's gonna be the, in fact, I already heard of one friend of mine just went to Rome to get certified in this thing. And but essentially, when he described it to me, I was like, so tell me how that's different from my toe. Right? Well, this one's different because you're, there's chargebacks they're really trying to use a cost center. And I was like, right, that's exactly what I was doing. And everybody, everybody froze at the time that you were trying to do that configuration to the CMDB. Right. There was always the, the one piece of thing and there always seems to be one piece of thing and in this case, it's it's agile is the right level development of when you throw something into poi. That's always the one thing that people seem to miss. That's And strategy over versus functionality or requests or business questions, right? In this one, right, it was a CMDB. So now they've tried to figure out how to do it without a CMDB. And therefore, it's Yeah, it's it's frustrating.

David Stackleather  51:14  
Yeah, well, that goes to it's, it's a business model, and they're not realize this, they're constructing a product to sell, which means you have to change something, and you've got to have something to sell. And now you're just re, for the most part, you're rehashing old stuff in a new format with new fonts and, you know, fancy website, but fundamentally, you're not really selling anything new. And fundamentally, people can't buy something and install it and change their organizations and that that deep giveaway just is not really possible.

Rick A. Morris  51:45  
So I've had to I've had to learn how to develop analogies that I do a lot of stuff on resource management, understanding the utilization of our people and it doesn't have to be hard takes five minutes a week per person, you know, per manager really to do. But I always love We don't have time to do resource management. I'm like, well, that's like saying you're too fat to diet. It just there's nothing there. That makes sense. It's Yeah, it is what it is. Right? Well, David, I've appreciated your time partner, I appreciate you coming on the show and sharing your expertise with us. And we wish you luck in the future. Thank you very much. I've enjoyed it. And so for everybody else hanging on, we're going to have West bush on the show next week. Wes is a best selling author of product lead growth, these renowned product lead growth pioneer, it says in his bio, he's ridiculously tall, so we're gonna have to figure out what that means. But looking forward to have Wes on the show. We've got some great guests lined up. We're actually I think, booked out into July now for the show. So we've got a lot of great information coming up. We'd love for you guys to give us feedback. You can do so at Rick A. Morris on Twitter. You can find me on LinkedIn and Facebook at Rick A. Morris, and you can always send an email to our Morris at r squared consulting comm or Rick at Rick A. Morris calm and until next Friday. We hope that you live your own work life balance and stay tuned right here to voice them. America business for our next fantastic show.

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Turn Your Life Around - Inge Rock

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VoiceAmerica  0:04  
One problem facing people at many levels of business is how to make time for a work life and a personal life. Do you find that one seems to keep getting in the way of the other? This is the work life balance with Rick Morris. Even if you're not involved in the business world, you'll have a lot to gain by tuning into today's show. Now, here's your host, Rick A. Morris,

Rick A. Morris  0:26  
and welcome to a new edition of the work life balance. So excited to have everybody along. We've got everything all set up. And I've actually got a fantastic guest. It's a repeat guest. It's a it's a dear friend of mine from the john Maxwell team. And I think she and I both are kind of caged animals right now in the sense that we're used to traveling and visiting with people and inspiring audiences and being on stage and in now stuck, you know, 50 plus days in our homes. I think we're going a little I'll be honest, we're just gonna go batshit crazy, I think is what we're doing at the end of the day, but But let's bring her on the show. No need to introduce her to the rest of the audience. We got tons of stuff on there from before but let's bring Ingo rock on how you doing.

Inge Rock  1:07  
Hi Rick. Very well How about yourself?

Rick A. Morris  1:11  
doing fantastic. You know the first time we met I think you were dancing on stage leading leading the original dance crew for the for the john Maxwell team.

Inge Rock  1:20  
years ago.

Rick A. Morris  1:21  
Yeah. When did you join the team?

Inge Rock  1:23  
Right from the beginning.

Rick A. Morris  1:25  
So your founding member?

Inge Rock  1:27  
Yeah, I think the second group,

Rick A. Morris  1:29  
second group, Okay, fair enough. It's close enough. Right? Well,

Inge Rock  1:31  
I think the years Frankly,

Rick A. Morris  1:34  
I have to count the coins. You know, when they asked me how many MCs you've been through. I have to count the coins. I'd have no idea.

Man,

Inge Rock  1:43  
heartbroken when we when we canceled due to COVID this last piece yet. But anyway, we're here to discuss you. You've got a new book, right? How exciting. You've got a new book. Good and tell him what the title is.

Yes, the title is turn your life around.

been released in Belgium in Dutch, which is my primary language and last December, and now we're launching the English version

Rick A. Morris  2:10  
outstanding. And you're also starting to come stateside a little bit more as well talk about,

Inge Rock  2:16  
expect that. Well, you know, everything we did over the last 13 years grew organically. You know, people were just pulling my sleeve and saying, hey, when can I join your team? When can I work with you? When can you help me grow my business, etc. And so we brought people in from the states from the UK from Curacao, which is convenient because they also speak Dutch. from everywhere, actually. And so the team is growing, and I'm really looking forward to hop over as soon as we can, and start doing seminars in the States. Yes.

Rick A. Morris  2:57  
Well, yeah, that that's what we're all waiting for. We're kind of ready to jump ready to go. But talk to me a little bit about this. I mean, when did you know and what inspired you really to a write the book but what what's kind of the story of turning your life around?

Inge Rock  3:12  
My story started about 15 years ago, when my life collapsed, just you know, complete turmoil. I lost everything. Once my marriage lost my business, my self confidence state with 1 million euro of debt, which was crazy. And I remember then one morning it was very cold, freezing snow. And there was nothing much to do and I was thinking this is this it? Is there something more. So somewhere in my soul, something was stirring, but I had no clue. So I came into a bookstore and I found the legendary book, you can heal your life by Louise Eliot. I bought the book and I remember I was thinking, well, if this is any good, like fire with it today. And that was a start. That was the turning point. And now I wrote the book in Dutch It is my second book in English is my second. But I wrote it because I see so many people being stuck and wondering, Is this it? Or is there something more? And if there's something more, how do I find it? How do I connect with what's truly there for me? So that is the purpose of the book to bring answers to that and inspire people to actually,

Rick A. Morris  4:37  
I think there's really kind of two levels to that, right. There's the people that are kind of, I'm stuck, but I'm unaware that I'm stuck, essentially. Right. Or that I'm stuck. And I'm aware that I'm stuck, but I don't know what to do to kind of get out of that.

Inge Rock  4:50  
Yeah. So you have practical advice for that in the book? Absolutely. Yes. We look at different angles. And I Well, every book, I write is a self help book, but also workbook. I'm a coach, I ask questions, right? So I cannot write a book without asking questions and people and giving people assignments so they can become aware of what they truly want, and what is the voice inside of them that is still like locked up? And how do I gain more and more clarity? You know, before they make the turn, of course, and yes, there are also people, you know, who have been knocked down like I was 15 years ago, actually, I knew already for four years that I had to change my life around. But you know, I was stuck in the comfort zone and afraid to change, afraid, you know, to lose what I had and eventually lost everything. And I realized that that was four years too late. So it doesn't have to be painful. As soon as you come become aware of it, and you realize that, you know, you become emotional, emotional and you're not satisfied that maybe you cannot put your finger on it. That's the time that you start to think. And and yeah, I think there is no way back then.

Rick A. Morris  6:08  
And I think there's something that I'm hearing more and more to is, you know, I feel nothing. So it's not not stuck in unaware it's not stuck and aware. It's it's assessing the current relationship and saying that there's literally I feel nothing in this relationship. There's no emotion whatsoever. It's just kind of going through the motions. So when Do people really begin to realize it's time to change?

Inge Rock  6:39  
People start to realize, actually, this is a good time. You know, there's lots of this with COVID-19 is people are stuck. Many people don't have a job, you know, are locked up in their homes just like I am now. 50 plus things and a lot of people ask themselves questions because regular life stops. But as soon as you know you're, most of the time you're in a place by yourself can be sitting on the restroom, I mean, or living in bath or whatever. And then that little voice comes and says What are you doing? Why are you doing this? Who are you doing this for? You know, these are the subtle questions that come forward and make you think like, Okay, I gotta do this for the rest of my life Am I gonna stay in this relationship are no less of my life and that I'm going to live here for the rest of my life. Because it's in many areas. It's not only career or business can be relationships can be the place where you live, there's so many elements, and even stuck in your own body. It can be like, I'm going to live like this for the rest of my life. And it doesn't have to be midlife crisis. I think You've had many different levels. But when the questions come forward, you've had to pay attention to it and you sit and, you know, just let come whatever comes allow the voice to come forward. I think that's important.

Rick A. Morris  8:16  
And I think you said it earlier. I think you're right in the sense of with COVID-19, we've cleared out the distractions and a lot of people are forced. One of my favorite sayings is AI, activity doesn't equal achievement, right? We can be really busy doing a bunch of stuff that means nothing. And when you there's people that convince themselves that they're super happy, because they're the ones doing the bake sale, and they're taking all the kids to sports, and they're, they're immersed in activity to prove to them and now that you've stripped all that away, you're just kind of left with you at the core. And I think this is a really interesting time. I love the fact that you said it's a perfect time to start looking introspectively I think it's the time where people start realize, Oh no, like, What do I do? Like? Who am I? The day, right?

Inge Rock  9:07  
Yes, because we copy and paste our dates. We copy paste the day of today towards tomorrow. And it goes on and on and on. And eventually years passed by and people look back and saying, Oh my gosh, what did I do for the last 567 10 years, and now it all stops, you know, and we cannot copy paste our life like, you know, we are creatures of habit, when habits stop, we get challenged. And then if the regular job is not there, and you know, as you say, taking the kids to sports, etc, everything stops. So now we have to time into space and think which is very confronting for many, many people, by the way. But on one hand, I think at least there is a space there's a void that we can start to fill with something That is way more interesting and way more fulfilling. I think that's important too.

Rick A. Morris  10:05  
And I think the most successful people right now, too are actually using this time to set up. Yeah, I talked about emergence. That's a big thing. Mm hmm. We're gonna come out of this, we're going to pop out of this COVID cocoon and life is going to get back together. But the people that are planning for emergence now versus just planning, you know, what am I going to do? What am I going to stream on Netflix tomorrow? Right? I think those are the people that are really gonna have an opportunity to explode coming out of this.

Inge Rock  10:36  
Yes, of course, because you see, also for instance, in this course, people are still numbing themselves with baking cookies and drinking to lunch and sporting too much, etc, running away from themselves. But then there are people just like you and me and we take time to evaluate and, and to really ask ourselves, how can we add more value? I think that's a big thing. In my book, I didn't I speak a lot about ambition and significance. You know, our good friend says once you've tasted significant significant success will never be enough by Yeah, exactly. So yeah, I, for instance, one of my dear clients is CEO of a very large public publicity company. He called me last week and he said, I'm not going back. I just can't, I just can't I I'd be lying to myself. I have four sports car but I have no time to drive them. You know? And okay, maybe that is one example and for everybody of us is going to emerge in a different way. But I think it's very natural and very healthy when it comes for.

Rick A. Morris  11:46  
He said, You know, people like you and me, but I do have to make a confession. I've been cooking my tail off 80 pounds on this, but I, I loved to cook and just at the time to do it. And now you know, I've changed some Circumstances and I'm cooking every night and it's a good time. Maybe not cookies, but we're cooking. Speaking of cooking, we're gonna continue with English.

Inge Rock  12:11  
Yes, exactly.

Exactly. I love it.

Rick A. Morris  12:16  
We're gonna go ahead and take a quick break here. We'll be right back with him directly listening to Rick Morris on the work life balance.

VoiceAmerica  12:25  
Are you frustrated with the overall productivity of your project management processes? Do you lack consistency and project delivery? Our squared consulting provides end to end services to assist companies of all sizes in realizing and improving the value of project management. Whether you want to build a project management office, train project managers or learn how to bring the oversight and governance to your project processes. r squared has tailored best practices to help you in all areas of project management, visit r squared consulting.com Are you getting the most out of your project management software. In many cases, it is not the software that is failing but the implementation limitations or processes surrounding the use of that software. r squared can analyze your current use and help improve your return on investment. r squared can also suggest the best software for your organization and goals and assist in the selection implementation and training. Allow r square to ensure that you are getting the value of your investment visit r squared consulting.com today from the boardroom to you, voice America business network.

You are tuned in to the work life balance to reach Rick A. Morris or his guest today we'd love to have you call into the program at 1-866-472-5790. Again, that's 186647257 At nine zero, if you'd rather send an email, Rick can be reached at our Morris at r squared consulting.com. Now back to the work life balance.

Rick A. Morris  14:10  
And we're back to the work life balance on this Friday afternoon visiting with my good friend in Iraq all the way in Belgium thank goodness for zoom and connection and all those things that we've been talking about the her latest book, which has turned your life around, but just in general, talking about what Inka does, and you know, a lot of people, I'm gonna speak for the United States as much as I can not that I can accompany the whole, you know, 350 million people. But I find it very difficult for people to accept or understand that there's not a negative stigma with coaching. Like people think that when I when I talk to clients, about coaching, they go, Oh, all of my people need that. But I'm good. Like I don't, I'm awesome. I'm good. I don't need it in I'm wondering what your experience is like that in different countries. And then also, are there some cultural influences on that? For instance, you know, Pura vida, we were talking about that in Costa Rica was life changing for me, but I've never culturally met. Again, just consistently, those people were so hungry, to hear about leadership to hear about values to hear about how they could personally take accountability for growth. And then I came back to the United States and it I mean, it's almost like I don't need this. So tell me a little bit about why is it so hard for people to change and why do they have that negative stigma against coaching?

Inge Rock  15:39  
Yeah, you know, coaching started from the world of sports years ago, and that is obvious. We all know that. You know, football players have coaches and runners have coaches so obvious and it's normal. But once coaching entered into the mainstream, people were afraid because you know, and I know there's also a big cultural difference between America and Central Europe or I come from, like, when I watch movies, everybody has a goal, not in your, you know, you must be really out of your mind when you need to shrink and for, you know, the us when we see that in movies, and that's all that I can relate to, of course, it's like it's so normal. But you know, we're still like in a niche of the market, I think, I believe I strongly believe and I watch a couple of very influential people around the world in different in different areas. And I believe people are waking up all around the globe now. And I think this COVID-19 periods really, you know, empowered that in some way. And I believe that there will never be a time like before COVID-19 and then there will be after COVID-19 i think it's it's really going to be a difference. I think Don't think we go back to normal? I don't think so. So since the world is speeding up, and we only have 24 hours in a day, and we all have our minds, and we all these impressions, you know, like 10 years ago, we had like, 1000 1500 impressions a day. Now we have 15,000. How do you cope with that? How do you deal with that? We see burnout figures going up global, you know, and yes, there are corners in the world when that doesn't count, because they don't have the Western culture like we have. But whenever I travel, and of course, I speak in in western countries. Yes, there are cultural differences. But in general, it's all the same, a lot of stress and a lot of burdens because we don't have the coping mechanism and the resilient mindset to deal with it. So I believe that you know, the the paradigms around coaching and a fear around coaching is going to be lifted somehow. But I also think it still will need some time. But I somehow I think it will become more mainstream in general in general no 17% of people worldwide and then of course, we're talking again, us. I think the big five and Europe 70% of people are using coaching in some way. Um, do I still see cultural differences? Sure. But it is more in the, you know, in the personality of the people like when I come to Poland, oh my god, there's so intense. You know, the audience all the time when I'm speaking, the audience is super quiet until the conference is over. And then they jump around my neck and they kiss me and hug me and they want 10,000 pictures and then my clothes need to Go to the dry clean car ride Foundation, the lipstick and, you know, yes, there are, of course, these kind of cultural differences. I'm married to a crow that so that kids do and I come in Croatia, it's the same kind of, you know, the same kind of vibe. But when it comes to personal growth and coaching and personal development, I see I see the same kind of things happening. And you know, Rick, when I come to the IMC and I'm sitting with people at the table from all over the globe, they all say the same. I country need this country need this and then I smile because I know. And probably every country needs it in a little bit in a different way. That awareness is awareness. You know, I believe that the whole world is waking up.

Rick A. Morris  19:54  
Yeah, I asked this question to a guest of mine previously, the answer was my Job's not to convince you you need coaching is to inspire you. Oh, I loved I love that line. But it's, I think a lot of it comes from fear. Oh, yeah. And so, I know that when I really, really started to invest in my personal growth journey, very similar story in the sense that writing hi just, you know, did like 1.9 or 2.1 million in profit for the year my biggest year ever, but I came out depressed, burned out. questioning if this was what I was going to do, and I almost lost everything. I literally had negotiate my house. And that's when I started my personal growth journey. I hit my leadership lit This is essentially what happened I hit the lid. I don't think I hit it. I think I crushed through it. It broke me in all different things. I mean, it was really hard lid. And so I started the personal growth journey and I've noticed my relationship changing in in terms of there's people who refuse to grow And who don't like the fact that I'm growing? And I think that there's a fear that I don't know if it's like stems from like the 70s, you know, the 70s, when all the self help really started to come out, and it has kind of a negative connotation that this album was like, and so we're promoting that it's very much self help, right. But it, it's just we've got to change and overcome that stigma, to get people to understand that, and we don't have the answers. Our job is to get the answers out of you.

Inge Rock  21:30  
Yeah.

Yeah, absolutely. You know, what, what is really typical, and then I'm speaking for Europe. Religions collapsed. Yeah. You see that, you know, 10 years ago, the whole Catholic Church collapsed somehow and people are searching, you know, the inner voice is still there. People are searching for, you know, what's the purpose of life? What am I doing here? And also communities. That's what I love so much about them. Back to state, your communities are so strong and that is something that we Europeans can learn a lot from. Because we need each other, you know, we need each other, we need to help each other, empower each other. Because the world is negative enough by itself. If you look at the masses, the masses are still you know, angry at the world and add themselves and so these are people that maybe we don't retrain them yet, but somehow I believe that yeah, if we can get beyond the resistance, I think it's, it's a lot of resistance. And of course, resistance is a form of fever once with people and that's why I do you know, so many free stuff also like like webinars and and free seminars, because I want to touch people, people's heart, I want to, you know, speaking to their souls, so they see that there is nothing strange or weird about it, and usually About the 70s I think we go 400 years back in Europe. We go, if we go back to Newtonian physics and Darwinian physics was, like 200 years ago, we were always that the smart, the rich, you know, the powerful, the influential, they can make their life. But if you're not the smartest kid in the class, too bad, you know, you're not gonna make it, you're just gonna be average. And honestly, that's what I thought. I wasn't the best student in school. I was just average. So I thought, you know what, my life is going to be average. And that is a huge paradigm. Global paradigm because I hear the same wherever I come in. It comes time that we move to quantum physics instead of Newtonian physics. But in order to move and to make that transition Lot of paradigms have to fall have to collapse. And people need tons of education to understand who they are and who they are. Not only from a religious point of view because I see that people who have faith, find a lot of power there and a lot of conference which is awesome. But I see so many people here around me without feet. So, you know, they start searching and they start reading in somehow, you know, they will find the connection to a higher self to a higher purpose, I'm sure.

Rick A. Morris  24:35  
Yeah. When I first really heard of Koba, you know what, I'll just, again, bear directly to john Maxwell team. When I first came to training. I was super excited to hear from karate, super excited, you know, to hear from Paul and of course of john. You know, Ed was there at the time. I felt like going into the session. I was like, I am here because I have to be here. With Kristian Simpson, okay and he rocked my world I mean he brought me to tears and so I think the coaching process is something every leader needs to at least go through whether they're trying to be coached or not. Because that that you know if you give somebody the answer you robbed them of a lifetime of learning when when Kristin hit me with that, everything just kind of crystallized clear to me. And so it was funny I've told Kristen this and you know, he's become a dear friend since he and I were scraping paint together in Costa Rica. But it's that I went in with this mentality that I was going to get the least value and then I found the most value just because I had the bar set so low, you know, it said so low and Christian, so amazing. But the juggling thing was just so crystal clear to me of what and I love the fact in to clue people in, don't want to give away the exercise, but they asked us to do something in this case juggling that we we all regularly Don't do and some of us can do some they can't. But they have as coach the other person. And what's hilarious is me. Again, I'll speak personally, I could not juggle. And here I am telling this person how to juggle, like I'm some famous circus clown that knows how to do it. That to me was brilliant. So, I'm running up against a blank break here. But what I want to get into when we come back is that coaching process itself, why we think every leader really needs to go through it. And then how does a person really kind of start to lose some of those paradigms that you were talking about? false beliefs? Yeah, they believe in and I think that's really kind of the key is, is we keep telling ourselves lies and believing them all the time. We're gonna get into that right after the break. We're here with Ingo rock you're listening to Rick Morris and the work life balance.

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Rick A. Morris  28:44  
And we're back to the third segment of the work life balance this Friday afternoon visiting with my dear friend Inga rock. First of all, could you have a cooler name to be a coach and to be I mean, there's so much Inga rocks the house in garages world There's so many things we can do within Iraq, but we gave us a really long lead. And so just to recap, let's get right to the question. What are those false beliefs that you really kind of hold us back? And what do people how do they identify and start to work with those false beliefs?

Inge Rock  29:17  
Yeah, first of all, it's very easy to believe. Right? You think it's Santa Claus.

Rick A. Morris  29:25  
By the way, I, I did that line at a graduation and I turn over and there's a whole parent section has a bunch of five, six and seven year olds. furious with me, but anyway, know your audience really know your audience go.

Inge Rock  29:38  
Oh, yes, exactly. And I know it's it's already 11:30pm in Belgium, but it's not that late.

Rick A. Morris  29:47  
I don't think I have any anybody 13 or younger listening to my show.

Inge Rock  29:51  
So yeah, it's so easy to believe why. And the reason why that is, is because we've all been programmed between and that's it. Typically prove, between the last month of pregnancy and age seven, eight. Because when we when we are born, you know, we have no cells of recognition, there is no programming, we can just eat, and sleep and cry, and some other basic stuff. But that's it. So if anything needs to be learned think of language, you know how hard it is to learn how to speak, to walk to eat properly, dress yourself, whatever. So these fours this first seven, eight years are very crucial because the child gets completely programmed and so good we, you know, we become our environment. So I spoke Dutch and I had to learn English later on, I had to learn French and learn German. And it was hard because now you have to do it consciously. When you learn something subconsciously, which is in the first seven, eight years of your life. It comes naturally You know, you don't have to think about it. Now, the rub is you, once programmed, it stays there. And most adults don't grow beyond 35 years old, they just remain the same person, and they copy pasted their daily life over and over and over again. So since the activity of the subconscious mind is 14,000 times bigger than the conscious mind, you can imagine what a storehouse that is, you know, limiting beliefs but also habits. You know, every meal that you ate every phase that you saw every word that you spoke, every place that you visited, it's in your subconscious, but ask you think back off last vacation last summer. There we are. It's so easy, you know, to get into the subconscious mind and pop up some ideas. But changing the belief system is hard work, because it is still in the subconscious mind and that's where it goes comes into place because of coach asks you the questions that you cannot ask yourself. And the first time I heard that from Christians, I was mesmerised myself like, What do you mean? I can ask questions to myself? No, you can because when you're in the frame, you don't see the picture. And I couldn't see my own picture. So it is so easy to fight or what we believe. But it's not always the best thing for us. What do we do?

Rick A. Morris  32:28  
And when those beliefs then become challenged, right, do you have that natural reaction to defend them? So what's what is a technique that you use? Or how do you start to get people to identify what those false beliefs are, but then how to start reprogramming how they feel about that belief?

Inge Rock  32:50  
Yeah, there are a few techniques that I use. The first thing I use is a self coaching model. In my programs, people go first to self coaching and then They can move on to coaching. Because I strongly believe that if you can coach yourself, you know, you become more aware you'll become stronger. And you can use more to give to other people, then if you only learn the technique to coach other people, and I changed that over the years, honestly, because I saw the power, and you know what to reach very funny. I never had a coach from the very first because, you know, I go forward from before the time of the GMT. You know, I never had a coach, when I got my certification, came back to the team came to Belgium. And I started to map out my thoughts, my feelings, my habits, my behavior, my circumstances, my results, my situations, my problems, and I made my own self coaching model where I learned now people to do for themselves, where they map out everything they feel, they think, no day, they experience the whole mumbo jumbo. The problem is, when you experience life, it is it's just amaze. It's a maze of thoughts. It's amazing feelings. It is, you know, everything's connected, especially with women is very complicated because we talk and we talk and we talk to get clarity in the knees, and then men react differently. But the bottom line is, we need to understand how we operate. So that is one thing. And the second thing is meditation. You know, I was the girl that said, Nope, not gonna do that. I'm not gonna sit on my ass and close my eyes, you know, for an hour and see, oh, we're not going to do that. And there's a form of resistance, right? I was so resistant to meditation because like, you know, the best Excuse was no I have too much energy for that, I cannot sit still, oh my gosh, what a limiting belief and then I started five minutes and 15 minutes. So, once you can go beyond the analytical mind and the other analytical mind is actually the layer between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. So, once you get beyond the analytical mind what you do in meditation, you get access to the subconscious mind. And that is where you change those beliefs. So, first of all, I use the self coaching model so people can become aware of what they want to change about themselves. And then of course, we extract that, then we go into the meditation and we change it in the subconscious mind, but we do it ourselves right? In the meditation, I can change my subconscious mind. Doesn't mean that everything changes overnight. No, but you know what? happens, you become aware of when that limiting belief pops up the next day, during the day somehow, it's like you meet an old friend, and you say, I know you before, not this time, I'm not going to give you any attention. And then, you know, didn't your logical wires in our brain pruned away, because we don't give it an attention anymore. And that is how it changed.

Rick A. Morris  36:28  
And it's hard It takes it takes. It's the power of well, right, the willpower to continue to focus. You know, one of the things that you just said, which I found really interesting is that you didn't have a coach and I was the same way I remember going into a coaching session that was like pre paid by some program that I was doing. I was like, This is gonna be one session with a guy he was amazing. He's amazing. And so what I what I tell people now when they when they asked me about coaching or how to find coaches, that kind of stuff I said, You asked me One question. So it's nice to ask who their coaches? Oh, because if you believe in the process, then you're gonna go get a coach. So you didn't have a coach, but you have one now I'm gonna I'm gonna Oh, yeah. How many do you have now? Two, you have two. Business one per person. There it is. Yeah, I have different phases, the same thing but one's financial. one's personal one's professional. Yeah. But I think it's a great question to ask, because if they go, What do you mean? Well, who's coaching you because if you truly understand the process of coaching, then that doesn't, once you become a coach doesn't mean you don't need one.

Inge Rock  37:40  
You know, it just occurs to me. I believe that people get a coach to value themselves enough to evolve quickly, because they understand they have no time to lose. And they want to grow to the next level because they have more to give and you know, more value to put out there in the world. So, coaching is the shortcut. I mean, why would you say, hey, and wait until the light goes, the light bulb goes off? I mean, know when I get stuck one text? Yeah. Oh, I'm stuck, get me home to beer. And that is what I love so much.

Rick A. Morris  38:26  
So how do people then figure out what's possible for them? Right? We started talking about we want something more we want something better we want to grow. Maybe they've started to mess around a little bit and start to create this new awareness. How do they determine what really is possible for them in the long run?

Inge Rock  38:45  
Yeah, so first of all, there's an overall definition that is when you become aware of an idea or a concept or a wish or want a dream and it feels good. It means You can do it. Okay. So people always ask me Yeah, but what if tomorrow I want to be a prima ballerina? And you know, I'm in my late 50s. And I'm thinking, why would you get that idea? Right? It just doesn't make any sense. Now I give my audience always couple of exercises that they can do to become more and more aware of one day really want because 80% of the audience's I don't know, when I really don't know what I want. And, you know, again, that's so limiting belief. First of all, people are not aware of what they want. The subconscious mind knows already. But it's somewhere you know, somewhere in the layers. So a couple of things that you can do is first of all, go back to your childhood. What did you love so much? Did you like to climb trees dance on the tables make fencing the woods were used as a kit. go and explore that and see what's in there. Okay, write it down in a notebook and start journaling and collecting ideas from the past. Ask your brothers, your sisters, maybe your parents still around so you can become more and more aware of who you really were as a kid because you were closer to source when you were young, right? I love to play catwalks. I love to sing to dance. I made those tents free. And I love to sell. I love to sell, you know, to tumble up tickets for school and stuff like that. And then the second thing you can do is connect the dots. And you know, the legendary Stanford University speech of Steve Jobs where he says it's only when I connected the dots in my life that you know, a pattern became clear and I understood who I was in those dogs. Are landmarks, you know, times in our life that you find this good or bad, you know, turning points that made us challenge and we outgrew them. Like he's giving the example of his own when he got fired for Apple. And also, you know, the beautiful turning points did the accomplishments, the successes, and I don't know if you remember, when I was a kid, you know, we had these drawing cards with numbers 123. And we had to go from number one, number two, number three, number four, and then all of a sudden we had Mickey Mouse. You know, and that is that exercise. When you go back and you look at the major turning points in your life and you start connecting those dots. You see a pattern that talk that you know, that tells a lot of information about who you are, and what's in your personality. And I always say you know, your biggest talent, and your biggest Power is on the other side of your biggest fake pain and your your biggest setback. And when you say that people go like, oh, wow, yeah, I had some, some kicks in the book, you know, I had some turning points. And now we can look at in a different way. And I think that's really very powerful.

Rick A. Morris  42:19  
I think so too. And I think it's a good place for us to stop right here. We're going to come back with one more segment with Iraq, where we'll ask the question we ask all of our guests. And for her, we're going to go back and check what her first answer was at some point, but we'll do that right after the break. You're listening to Rick Morris in the work life balance.

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You are tuned in to the work life balance. To reach Rick Morris or his guest today, we'd love to have you call into the program at 1-866-472-5790. Again, that's 1-866-472-5790. If you'd rather send an email, Rick can be reached at our Morris at r squared consulting.com. Now back to the work life balance.

Rick A. Morris  44:27  
And we're back to the final segment of the work life balance on this Friday afternoon Incas. How can people get in touch with you? How do they find you on the web? How do they get ahold of you?

Inge Rock  44:38  
Well, it's very easy. My website is in ingerock.com. That's ingerock.com. But Rick, I have a present for everyone. I'd love to give a copy of my book in a version to all the participants today and they can go to ingerockbook.com, and they can have their free copy.

Rick A. Morris  45:03  
Nice. Well, thank you very much. I think that's a first I don't think I don't think we've had it to where somebody is given a gift everybody in the audience, so we appreciate that. So what's some of the best advice you've ever received?

Inge Rock  45:19  
Yes. The first thing, probably 10s you know, so many, you know, over the years, but the first one that comes to my mind is lick your wounds. Come get like, blessings move on. That was so powerful when, you know when my life collapsed. And I find my way into personal growth and development. And then Paul became, of course, my first mentor. And we were talking one day and was called beach and you know about the things that were still accurate in my life. I mean, I made a transition, but you know, was still messy. It was complete turtle and he said, lick your wounds, Count your blessings. Move on. Like, this is not the last one. You are going to have more problems, more setbacks, but you are going to grow stronger. And just you know, the faster you can move through the term. You know, the easier you can find your way back and I will never forget that. And then later on, I think five years later, I had a huge problem with with a business partner. And I remember me sitting on the stairs close to my room with Paul Martinelli on the phone and he said, unit remember a girl lick your lick your words, Count your blessings move on. Yeah, no, just give me a one more day.

Can I just look a little longer? One more.

Give me sometimes we need time to digest, you know, but I think that is that's priceless. Yeah.

Rick A. Morris  46:56  
I think that's probably one of the biggest things over My last five years of growth is the awareness of my seasons. So, you're the, if you look at me six, seven years ago, if I was trying to write the book, if I was trying to do something creative, and I wasn't in a creative mood, I'd force it. Oh, yeah, then I, you know, something that should take me an hour would take three hours, and I've ended up throwing it all away anyway. In doing so, just embracing the season. And there's days where I just, I'm just not there. And, and you know, that lick your wounds. I love it, because I'm like, Alright, well, today is gonna suck, and I'm just gonna ride the suck meter all the way. And then tomorrow, it's a new day. I'll be fresh. Off we go.

Inge Rock  47:38  
Law freedom. Yeah,

Rick A. Morris  47:40  
absolutely. Anything else you'd like to share with the audience before we wrap up today?

Inge Rock  47:46  
Well, I'd love to encourage people you know, and say, we all have returns in life. And you know, the title of the book is not by coincidence, turn your life around. I'm not going to say that everybody has To turn, you're happy and everything's going great. Right on, keep them going.

But I think the major advice is listen to your heart.

You know, we always think that the mind is the strongest power and it is, but by far the strongest creative power, but it is the heart that is the best GPS. You know. So first, always listen to your heart. And I know that is not the easiest part to do. I teach my audience by the way for all the people who are going to get the download of the book. In the end page are three meditations and the first meditation is breathing heart coherence exercise, just six minutes to start with, to, you know, to make the bridge between the brain and the heart into open the heart again, because we've become thinkers, you know, a lot of a lot of titles is think and think and and I also wrote books that start with think end. And there's a lot of power there. But don't forget that we are heart centered people, and that we need to move to a time where we can, you know, make the Connect to heart connection again, and, and create an environment. That's why I love our community so much where it's safe to open your heart because then, of course, you you reconnect with source you reconnect with the grand overall designer. And that is just that is what life is all about. And all the hints that you get from them all the feelings, just priceless grow beyond the struggle, grow beyond force or survival, like you just said, and learn to trust again from the heart. I think that's the biggest advice I can get

Rick A. Morris  49:58  
in and I appreciate I think it's something. I'm a feeler, I do a lot of things by my gut feel, which is following the heart, right? Somebody? How do you know that's gonna work? I don't know, I'll figure I'll let the market decide. But right now that feels good. That's what we want to do it so, you know, people get frustrated with me because they'll give me ideas think of what do you think and I think it's great idea because you always say that because it's your idea. Let the market prove you wrong. Don't let me prove like, I'm not gonna be the one that gave you that. Yeah, I'm not gonna prove you wrong. But follow your heart. If that's the accent. I loved what you said in an earlier segment to I mean, that idea is that divine inspiration. It's, it's basically when when people believe in different things, we'll say grand overall design, but that's when they're answering back. Right? Yeah, right. That's so you're, you're praying giving a wish that idea that comes to your subconscious and all of a sudden in your brain is the answer that yes, we'll save it. That person spoke to me that's what they're talking about.

Inge Rock  50:59  
Yeah. love the ocean adlet quote where he says I'm grateful for the idea that has used me.

Rick A. Morris  51:06  
Yeah.

Inge Rock  51:08  
As the other way around and

Rick A. Morris  51:11  
I think my favorite though is rowdy where he's persons praying for the parking space. Please guys, let me find the parking space but nevermind, gotta got one thanks.

Inge Rock  51:21  
Most quickly when you get out of the way, it moves quickly. I had

Rick A. Morris  51:26  
a big realization while you were talking about a midlife crisis. So you could kind of call it mine. But I bought a very expensive car for the for one of the first times but it was because it was on my dream board for 25 years. Wow. Put a picture of this car on my dream board when I mean I was like waiting tables. There's no way I could I couldn't afford a car at that point, very last black car. In May. The realization was like last year I was like, You know what? I'm doing it. It's been there. The energy's been there. It's time to pull the trigger. And I'm happy I did but I think that that's when we when you were talking about what's possible. I think it may not be possible today, doesn't mean it's not going to took me 25 years to realize that dream and even realize that I could, I could close on that. But the point being is, I if I wasn't aiming for anything, I would have never gotten that satisfaction in the first place.

Inge Rock  52:23  
Oh, absolutely. And we have to grow into the person who is worthy of that dream. That's right. So it takes time, you know, the law of gestation and incubation is there and you know, the only reason why we need dreams to grow into them, and then to create in your dream,

Rick A. Morris  52:42  
because that's what I'm all about. And thank you so much for taking the time and coming back on with us again, and you're always welcome on the show.

Inge Rock  52:50  
Thank you so much. It was really great honor to be here. Thank you so much week, and have a really crazy day. People

Rick A. Morris  53:01  
you as well. And next week we're going to have David stack leather on David is an agile is like me. And when I was reading his bio and what he's about he and I have some of the very same beliefs about organizations and companies that are using these buzzwords and fads thinking that they're new ideas. And he actually has a similar background to mine and being a project turnaround specialist. So I'm super excited to have him on. We'll have him on next week. That's David Steckler, that's going to be the May 8 show and we've got tons of guests. We're actually booked with guests all the way till the end of July now. So we've got a ton of good stuff coming your way here on the work life balance. We hope you continue to join in every Friday with us and until next week, we hope you live your own work life balance. We'll talk to you soon.

VoiceAmerica  53:50  
Thank you for joining us this week. The work life balance with Rick Morris can be heard live every Friday at 2pm pacific time and 5pm eastern time on The Voice America A business channel. Now that the weekend is here. It's time to rethink your priorities and enjoy it. We'll see you on our next show.